People say this, "if you need anything, JUST ask" like it should be an easy thing. Maybe it is for some or even most people. It isn't for me.
I don't know where it came from, but I'm afraid to 'just ask' for pretty much anything. From anyone. I've actually improved a lot since being married to Lester. He won't stand for me cowering in the corner when I should be asking a sales associate to get me a pair of shoes from the top shelf.
I have the most difficult time asking for things that seem to put another person out for my sake. I hate it. I really really really hate it. But I've felt this way for so long I don't know how to think, feel or act any other way. AND the anxiety involved with asking makes me reconsider the worth of the thing I am asking for. Lots of times, it just isn't worth it.
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About Me
- TaLaisa
- I'm a Stay at Home girlie Mama trying to find my way in a jungle of all things boy. I'm surrounded by 3 wild and crazy sons and their equally wild and crazy Dad and two dogs who are also male.
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"if you ever need anything, just ask." we got told that so much with Brigham and I felt the same way. Then one day a girl said, "can I have your girls over for a couple of hours today? then they won't be scared of us when Brigham's recovering and you can send them over whenever you want." WOW! I just totally appreciated that so much. She ended up being my best friend in this neighborhood (they're moving :( ). And it was because she made a specific offer of help. I am really trying to learn from that experience.
I agree. I find people are more willing to accept help when you say, "I can do___ for you". I have learned that, so there is a great lesson in this kind of struggle.
I have a really hard time with this as well, TaLaisa. It has also gotten much better since I married Seth. I still remember when we were saying, "We should go walking sometime..." Finally Lester just said, "We have to go. Pick a time and do it!" He reminded me a lot of Seth then.
It is definately easier to let people do something for you when they say this is what I want to do.
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